Friday night, a friend of mine was at a jazz club — hanging out with her neighbor when a guy walked up and asked if he could sit at their table.
“He was tall, dark, and kinda handsome,” she told me.
He started talking to her neighbor about strip clubs (he suggested they leave and go to one). Then the conversation moved to online dating. He said he loved www.plentyoffish.com.
“All kinds of coochie is thrown at me,” he said. “I had to use the belt on one girl.”
He spanked her?
No, she asked him to tie his belt around her throat, and strangle her while he did her from behind.
!
He said it was awesome.
After he told this story, my friend gave him her phone number.
??!!!
This is a girl who has yelled at me for the many bad choices I’ve made.
I just want to be friends with him, she told me. She wants him to take her to jazz clubs, and dance clubs.
I don’t think he wants to be just friends with her. She argues that since he told her so many freaky things straight-up when he met her, then he definitely doesn’t want to date her. He just wants to be friends.
Uhm, no, it means he wants to see if he can use the belt on her.
He followed her home. Then he called later that night.
We’re just going to be friends, she told me at brunch yesterday. I’m not looking for a sexual relationship.
I hope he doesn’t date rape her.
She told me I’ve been watching too many Lifetime movies.
But, she’s been warned.
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CondoMax // May 11, 2008 at 10:27 pm
How many male friends do you (or she) have whom you met in a bar somewhere? Seems to me that the nature of the setting (i.e., a meat market) precludes the formation of platonic friendships. I don’t believe that a guy who brags to a woman he barely knows about rough sex is interested in just friendship; furthermore, I might also question your friend’s sincerity about wanting to be just friends with him. She seemed to be intrigued by the belt/doggie possibilities…
tanasie // May 11, 2008 at 10:39 pm
I agree.
I told her it’s okay to say she wants a boyfriend. I don’t think she wants another friend. If she really just wants to hang out with a friend, she can call me and I’ll go out with her.
I can’t say I’ve ever been “just friends” with a random guy I met in a bar who didn’t know any of my friends. (I have met guys in bars who are friends of friends and we became friends too.)
I did meet one of my very best girlfriends in a bar, actually. We were both on bad girl’s nights out — and she looked how I felt. I started talking to her while I was waiting for a drink at the bar. I said I was a reporter, she said she was an attorney, I asked if she had any interesting cases that might be good story ideas. She said she did. We exchanged business cards, met for a drink, and became BFF’s.
CondoMax // May 12, 2008 at 9:39 pm
Good point about the potential for finding true friendship in the meat market setting—either friends of friends or friends of the same gender. Of course, neither applies to your friend.
Back to her, I think she’s even stretching a point with this guy if she is honestly hoping to consider him a boyfriend, per se. He has all the characteristics of a quick hookup or two and will probably view remembering her name a seriously onerous encumbrance. If she admits that is what she is looking for, then her expectations will be suitably tempered to reality and anything above and beyond from him will be a bonus.
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