Comments on: Tall, Dark, and Kinda Handsome http://haplyeverafter.com/2008/05/11/tall-dark-and-kinda-handsome/ My parents have a book called "Why is my daughter not married yet" Fri, 25 Sep 2009 01:10:24 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: CondoMax http://haplyeverafter.com/2008/05/11/tall-dark-and-kinda-handsome/#comment-90 CondoMax Mon, 12 May 2008 21:39:44 +0000 http://playingwithmatches.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-90 Good point about the potential for finding true friendship in the meat market setting---either friends of friends or friends of the same gender. Of course, neither applies to your friend. Back to her, I think she's even stretching a point with this guy if she is honestly hoping to consider him a boyfriend, per se. He has all the characteristics of a quick hookup or two and will probably view remembering her name a seriously onerous encumbrance. If she admits that is what she is looking for, then her expectations will be suitably tempered to reality and anything above and beyond from him will be a bonus. Good point about the potential for finding true friendship in the meat market setting—either friends of friends or friends of the same gender. Of course, neither applies to your friend.

Back to her, I think she’s even stretching a point with this guy if she is honestly hoping to consider him a boyfriend, per se. He has all the characteristics of a quick hookup or two and will probably view remembering her name a seriously onerous encumbrance. If she admits that is what she is looking for, then her expectations will be suitably tempered to reality and anything above and beyond from him will be a bonus.

]]> By: tanasie http://haplyeverafter.com/2008/05/11/tall-dark-and-kinda-handsome/#comment-89 tanasie Sun, 11 May 2008 22:39:42 +0000 http://playingwithmatches.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-89 I agree. I told her it's okay to say she wants a boyfriend. I don't think she wants another friend. If she really just wants to hang out with a friend, she can call me and I'll go out with her. I can't say I've ever been "just friends" with a random guy I met in a bar who didn't know any of my friends. (I have met guys in bars who are friends of friends and we became friends too.) I did meet one of my very best girlfriends in a bar, actually. We were both on bad girl's nights out -- and she looked how I felt. I started talking to her while I was waiting for a drink at the bar. I said I was a reporter, she said she was an attorney, I asked if she had any interesting cases that might be good story ideas. She said she did. We exchanged business cards, met for a drink, and became BFF's. I agree.
I told her it’s okay to say she wants a boyfriend. I don’t think she wants another friend. If she really just wants to hang out with a friend, she can call me and I’ll go out with her.
I can’t say I’ve ever been “just friends” with a random guy I met in a bar who didn’t know any of my friends. (I have met guys in bars who are friends of friends and we became friends too.)
I did meet one of my very best girlfriends in a bar, actually. We were both on bad girl’s nights out — and she looked how I felt. I started talking to her while I was waiting for a drink at the bar. I said I was a reporter, she said she was an attorney, I asked if she had any interesting cases that might be good story ideas. She said she did. We exchanged business cards, met for a drink, and became BFF’s.

]]> By: CondoMax http://haplyeverafter.com/2008/05/11/tall-dark-and-kinda-handsome/#comment-88 CondoMax Sun, 11 May 2008 22:27:19 +0000 http://playingwithmatches.wordpress.com/?p=60#comment-88 How many male friends do you (or she) have whom you met in a bar somewhere? Seems to me that the nature of the setting (i.e., a meat market) precludes the formation of platonic friendships. I don't believe that a guy who brags to a woman he barely knows about rough sex is interested in just friendship; furthermore, I might also question your friend's sincerity about wanting to be just friends with him. She seemed to be intrigued by the belt/doggie possibilities... How many male friends do you (or she) have whom you met in a bar somewhere? Seems to me that the nature of the setting (i.e., a meat market) precludes the formation of platonic friendships. I don’t believe that a guy who brags to a woman he barely knows about rough sex is interested in just friendship; furthermore, I might also question your friend’s sincerity about wanting to be just friends with him. She seemed to be intrigued by the belt/doggie possibilities…

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